Research suggests that in about 45% of couples, one or both partners were hopeful that the marriage could be saved. A recent study on the interest in marital reconciliation among divorcing parents revealed men were more hopeful in saving the marriage than women: 1 in 3 men indicated “yes” or “maybe” that their marriage could continue as compared to only 1 in 5 women. But it takes both parties to share the hope of reconciliation and put in the hard work necessary in order to make saving the marriage a real possibility. And, unfortunately, only 1 in 9 couples had both partners in agreement on their interest in reconciliation.
Of course, where you are in the divorce process may impact the possibility of reconciliation. The 2011 study revealed that the “possibility of couples open to reconciliation might be even higher at the outset of the divorce process when the divorce process itself has not caused additional strife.” If you find yourself in the midst of a divorce and questioning whether you can save your marriage, divorce mediation can be used to explore the possibility of reconciliation with the guidance of your divorce mediator. In fact, one question your mediator will ask you and your partner (separately or in joint session) is whether you are interested in exploring the possibility of reconciliation with your divorcing spouse.
While not every marriage can, will, or should be saved, some relationships can be. It is important if you are uncertain or open to reconciliation that you at least explore the option before closing the door on your marriage. If you find yourself in the midst of a divorce and questioning whether you can still salvage your marriage, contact us today to learn how mediation can be used to help you explore the possibility of reconciliation.